Children’s unconfidence stems from lack of fatherly love
The father is an important partner of the child’s game. The father tosses the child high and then catches the body games such as big movements, which not only delights the child, but also cultivates and exercises his courage and exploration spirit.
4-year-old boy Xiaoqiang’s father has a long-term business trip due to work reasons and has to entertain when he returns home. He spends little time with children.
Usually, Xiaoqiang hides behind his mother as soon as he sees a stranger. How can he tease him and say hello to him? He just doesn’t talk or show his face.
When he was bullied by a child, he would only cry and he would not dare to resist; he would always hide in the end while playing games and performing shows in kindergarten, but he did not dare to perform.
In the face of Dad’s business trip or coming back, Xiaoqiang gathers indifferently.
The 5-year-old girl’s dad also often travels, and she is more casual with her dad and even refuses to hold her.
Tongtong’s mother said that her daughter was very afraid of frustration and refused if she was not sure of what to do.
In kindergarten, she refused to take painting lessons, because this was not her advantage.
Both of these children are due to the lack of father’s growth education, which affects mental health and personality.
As the saying goes, “Teaching is more important than speaking”. Compared with mother, father has independence, self-confidence, strong, courageous, cooperative spirit and other personality characteristics, so that children unknowingly learn and simulate in the game.
In addition, the father’s extensive education model can expand the social scope of children and enable them to grasp more and richer social experiences and social skills.
The father encourages and instructs the child, and seldom teaches it directly. This gives the child more opportunities to face and deal with problems independently.